[*Girls Only Clubhouse*] ~ No Boys Allowed!

[FangireQueen]

So LivingSocialDeals is having a deal on Pole Dancing/Vertical Dancing lessons and I bought myself 2 weeks of lessons for $15. I can't wait! I've wanted to try this in like forever. I hear it's an amazing workout. But I am a bit worried; I haven't exercised in a long time and am a bit nervous about the body condition you need to start off.

So my question to you gals, any of you chicas do/try this and how is it? :anime: Also, is there some kind of basic body condition needed?

*shyly raises hand* I've done it in the past for fun haha. I seem to remember it's mainly strength in your arms and don't be tense ^^ You don't have to be super strong in your arms, just able to hold yourself up long enough to spin around haha. It's actually a lot of fun but you REALLY gotta stay loose when you do it. If you're too tense then you'll grip the pole too tight and won't be able to slide or move, or you'll be too stiff. Just have fun with it! I wish that kind of deal was around here

 

[MaraJade]

*shyly raises hand* I've done it in the past for fun haha. I seem to remember it's mainly strength in your arms and don't be tense ^^ You don't have to be super strong in your arms, just able to hold yourself up long enough to spin around haha. It's actually a lot of fun but you REALLY gotta stay loose when you do it. If you're too tense then you'll grip the pole too tight and won't be able to slide or move, or you'll be too stiff. Just have fun with it! I wish that kind of deal was around here

Nice. I will definitely post back feedback when this goes down. Thanks for the suggestions and tips!

Btw, nice job on the GiT Podcast, Ladies.:thumbs:

 

[angelicnoir]

... I think I went on my first... date? After nearly a year from my breakup.

I had every intention of simply inviting an old co-worker who I've known for a few years now to come and go gourmet food truck fooding with my best girl friend and I. But I realized that my bestie was going to be at work until really late and he ended up picking me up at my place.

I found myself trying to look nice and prettified and suddenly feeling nervous. I mean, I've always thought this guy was cute and he's a HUUUGE book nerd, writer and musician.

All of the guys I dated and loved, I remember there wasn't a moment when I didn't want to touch them and everything we talk about just sparked and made me smile from ear to ear. It felt natural to move from being friends to being something more.

I don't know... it just seemed awkward? We were into similar things and we could joke about stuff like Harry Potter, random comedians and talk about our love for cooking and food. But, it didn't... mesh? There were moments of hugging and leaning on each other, but it felt so forced and awkward.

This guy was funny, we definitely have a good friendship going and he fits the bill for me in terms of book nerdiness and what I like in a guy on paper, but... there's like, no spark? *sigh*

Ladies, am I just being too picky? I'm going to seriously be forever alone if the prospects of geeky guys are like this. :redface2:

 

[Kura]

... I think I went on my first... date? After nearly a year from my breakup.

I had every intention of simply inviting an old co-worker who I've known for a few years now to come and go gourmet food truck fooding with my best girl friend and I. But I realized that my bestie was going to be at work until really late and he ended up picking me up at my place.

I found myself trying to look nice and prettified and suddenly feeling nervous. I mean, I've always thought this guy was cute and he's a HUUUGE book nerd, writer and musician.

All of the guys I dated and loved, I remember there wasn't a moment when I didn't want to touch them and everything we talk about just sparked and made me smile from ear to ear. It felt natural to move from being friends to being something more.

I don't know... it just seemed awkward? We were into similar things and we could joke about stuff like Harry Potter, random comedians and talk about our love for cooking and food. But, it didn't... mesh? There were moments of hugging and leaning on each other, but it felt so forced and awkward.

This guy was funny, we definitely have a good friendship going and he fits the bill for me in terms of book nerdiness and what I like in a guy on paper, but... there's like, no spark? *sigh*

Ladies, am I just being too picky? I'm going to seriously be forever alone if the prospects of geeky guys are like this. :redface2:

Maybe you just feel awkward because it's the first time in a long while that you've been with someone.. and maybe you also felt awkward because you guys are actually making that transition from friend to more than friend.

Why not give it a bit more time.. and if there's nothing there then just tell him ._. It's not a bad thing, he'd understand.

 

[MaraJade]

Agreed. Just give it time and let it take its own pace. If something comes of it, good. If not, at least, you might've made a great friend you can geek together with.:anime:

Besides, it could develop...Tons of movies made about friends who've turned into more. I have a few friends that their relationship panned out just like that.

 

[Lynxara]

If there's no spark, there's no spark... right now. There might be one later. You'll know when you're really attracted to a guy.

 

[KouAidou]

Agreed with the above. If you like him just as a person, keep him in your life. You might just wake up one day and go "Hey, wait a second..."

Trust me on this one...

(I would use some kind of shifty-eye emoticon here but the HJU "Sly" emoticon always reads to me more like "dude, are you crazy?" than "I am being sneaky")

 

[Blade Dancer]

Yeah, to me "sly" should be "confused." :loltongue:

 

[angelicnoir]

*nods* Yeah, maybe the sudden jump to thinking we could be something more is what made it feel really awkward. He's a great guy for sure and I suppose it was our first time hanging out alone-ish, essentially. Giving it time and just hanging out as friends like we usually do sounds like a good plan.

It would be nice to find a geeky guy to mesh with me though. I seem to keep landing on dude that are into the same topics, so to speak, but not necessarily the same exact interest- like into reading books but he reads American authors and poetry and I read sci-fi, mythology and young adult fantasy

 

[Lynxara]

Differences like that can make a relationship more interesting, though. Well, provided you don't mind listening to him and he doesn't mind listening to you. After awhile, you can end up caring about someone's hobby just because you like doing things with them so much. At worst, you'll try something new and find out it's just not for you.

At least, I never expected to read so many Superman comics, and I know mattcomics never expected to watch so much Gundam.