I need a different point of view on this

[Forgotten Transformation]

ok so...

I met this girl... we'll call her stacy... online, we hit it off, we talk for a bit online and then she comes over to my place and we hang out and watch movies, tv shows etc etc... when she comes over she says that she doesnt was a relationship right now casue she found dating just one guy didnt work for her

so, she said "lets just be friends for now" im like ok sounds cool. :sweat: so we're watching stuff and then we start cuddling. The she says she has to go home. I tell her what a great time i had and she does the same we hug and then she goes :thumbs:

we do this every time we hang out and every now and then i get a kiss. easter comes up and I make mention of how I got nothing going for me for easter and she invites me over for easter dinner... :sly:

I met her family, and they really like me :thumbs:

we hang out some more and then she invites me to play cards with her family, Im like sure ok that sounds cool.

this goes on for a week or two. and then she starts feeling comfortable enough to talk about other guys in front of me and to other guys in front of me... even says that one guy she has been hanging out with she has had sex with every time she goes to see him... >8( (she has only seen him twice; shes been hanging out with me all the time :eyebrow then she asks me what are my feelings toward her and she replies with how she doesn't reciprocate those feelings cause she doesn't want to be tied down just yet and I tell her fine can wait till you do want to date again, she says well what if I dont chose you to date, I say well ill deal with it in my own way, in the meantime ill take what I can get :sweat:

and the thing is she has a great personality, a good sense of humor, and for some reason it feels natural (and im talking second nature natural here) and comfortable to cuddle/hug/kiss, I honestly think that me and her could sit there doing nothing but cuddle an I wouldn't be bored in the least bit.... aaaaaaand I cant get her out of my head.... :redface2:

wft is wrong with me....

and now I ask this... is she fucking with me or something cause after she told me that she thought of me as a friend (for right now) she cuddled with me... in front of her dad while we were watching a movie.... :eyebrow:

Thought... comments... insights...? just dont make jokes right now, not quite in the mood :redface2:

 

[Punk]

It's either a lame attempt at getting you jealous or she is seriously just trying to use you in order for her family to not pick up on her sexual partners. I've seen this thing happen before.

I kinda actually delt with it recently but not to the severity of your situation. The best thing to do is try and pull yourself away before you get to attached and hurt.

In a situation like this, you have to think like a girl. If you were doing that to her, she would stop talking and probably get angry.

 

[Forever Knight]

You poor poor bastard.

Somebody help this guy out bc I've I open my mouth on the topic I will explode.

 

[JFC]

Hate to say it, but yeah...it really sounds like you got thrown into the "guy friend" zone. And when I say "guy friend" I don't mean it as a "potentially boyfriend" type of deal, in your case it really sounds like the "you're like a brother to me" type of deal.

You poor poor bastard.

QFT.

 

[Punk]

Hate to say it, but yeah...it really sounds like you got thrown into the "guy friend" zone. And when I say "guy friend" I don't mean it as a "potentially boyfriend" type of deal, in your case it really sounds like the "you're like a brother to me" type of deal.

....Wait, so girls kiss their brother's now? :sly:

 

[Forgotten Transformation]

It's either a lame attempt at getting you jealous or she is seriously just trying to use you in order for her family to not pick up on her sexual partners. I've seen this thing happen before.

I kinda actually delt with it recently but not to the severity of your situation. The best thing to do is try and pull yourself away before you get to attached and hurt.

In a situation like this, you have to think like a girl. If you were doing that to her, she would stop talking and probably get angry.

actually she says that she wants me to date others so that in case she doesn't pick me, I wont be "disappointed"

oooo no no no no, her father is the one who suggested she date multiple guys instead of just one....her family KNOWS what shes doing. One of them however said that she should pursue me... not quite sure how to take that...

 

[Storm Eagle]

ok so...

I met this girl... we'll call her Stacy... online, we hit it off, we talk for a bit online and then she comes over to my place and we hang out and watch movies, TV shows etc etc... when she comes over she says that she doesn't was a relationship right now casue she found dating just one guy didnt work for her

Now that's the point where my interest would be sunk into the ground.

Unless you're cool with being with a polyamourist, this isn't the girl for you. What kind of father would want their daughter to date multiple guys all at once?

 

[KamenGrappler]

So she is screwing these other guys she hangs out with, but she's not letting you get in there? That's really fucked up man.

You should just try to get in this girl's pants, and try and keep your emotions out of it. If you can't get in her pants, then I'd see if she has any sexy friends. If she has even one tolerable friend, I'd try and have sex with her instead. Girls talk, if your sexual prowess is halfway decent, it might spark a little interest in this girl you're into. If not, then hey, at least you got some peripheral action.

Edit:

Also, I mean how are you really going about trying to get this girl? Are you just sitting around watching tv/movies all the time? Have you tried being a little exciting and taking her out dancing or something like that? Have you tried drinking with her? Getting a little sauced can really get things moving sometimes. Maybe this other guy she's had sex with every time she sees him, maybe he has that booze all set up each time they hang out.

 

[MetalSymphony]

It seem like she doesn't know what she want's, so she is keeping her options open for the time being.

It seems she's pegged you as a more stable guy she might want to go with, at the same time she has another who seems to be more intense.

The problem here is you don't want to be only retained as a "Maybe", only to be discarded later if she doesn't pick you, but at the same time, not hurt her feelings or otherwise push her away as to make coupling with her imposable.

Giver her a little more time (like 2 weeks), then tell her that she needs to choose what she wants to do.

It may end badly for you, but it also may end good. Ether way things will be settled and you'll know where she stands.

 

[Bolt]

I'm sorry, I just had to.