I need a different point of view on this

[Sage Shinigami]

, she says well what if I dont chose you to date, I say well ill deal with it in my own way, in the meantime ill take what I can get :sweat:

I'm not going to pretend to tell you exactly what you should do. But I do need to tell you: From personal experience (and, really, from every guy I've ever talked to who said something like that), what you just said NEVER EVER WORKS OUT.

The only thing you "get", is a friend around whom things are really awkward.

I'm not telling you to push the issue with her, I'm just saying don't get your hopes up. Also...

you know what... im done.. like with trying to find a someone.. this is stupid, I put myself through all this bullshit just to get a chance at a cool girl...ugh

lol, yup. And, at some point, despite declaring you're done with it...you're going to do it again. And, generally, even when the girl's cool, if it doesn't "work out", its not really worth it.

 

[MetalSymphony]

I'm gonna change my previous suggestion and just say next time you see her, tell her flat out how you feel, and if she is not ready to just be with one guy, then she should leave because being a "Fallback" sucks.

Cool girl's are a dime a dozen.

 

[ReD-X]

Put it in her butt. That'll get you out of the friend zone. Especially if you do it by SURPRISE! :O_O:

you sir are a genious! :castlerock:

 

[heroizumi]

Another female putting in her two cents...

I think she's stringing you along. She just wants to have that guy that she can go to if one of the other guys upsets her. This also could be that she's either tossed you into friend zone or she's trying to butter you up for if she does start a relationship, it has a bad end, and she needs a rebound that'll be super sweet to her.

That's all I can really. Say other than try meeting some other girls. :thumbs:

 

[SaikoDragon]

the problem here is it will be increasingly difficult to just "walk away" the longer you just procrastinate. It's even more problematic because you see this girl as "an option". She's close to you and thus easily approachable and you see the greatest opportunity. All this makes it the hardest thing to walk away from but you must. Because it will only lead to anger, frustrastion, and depression.

Everyone else hit on what this girl is doing. So the best thing to do is just walk away. You're not going to change her. You're just going to continue being sweet as honey and she'll continue to take advantage.

 

[KingRanger]

the problem here is it will be increasingly difficult to just "walk away" the longer you just procrastinate. It's even more problematic because you see this girl as "an option". She's close to you and thus easily approachable and you see the greatest opportunity. All this makes it the hardest thing to walk away from but you must. Because it will only lead to anger, frustrastion, and depression.

Everyone else hit on what this girl is doing. So the best thing to do is just walk away. You're not going to change her. You're just going to continue being sweet as honey and she'll continue to take advantage.

Not to mention the more you let yourself be used, the easier it is to just let people use you.

 

[Synch]

Shes out there double dipping or more I'd give her the boot! Even if she does give you a chance I don't know if I'd want to risk it lol

 

[IXAPaladin77]

Eh, I would say that you're first problem was trying to get a serious relationship from someone who clearly has stated that they do not want one at the moment, and are content with sleeping around with many guys. Even if she may want a relationship with you, and just you in the future, it sounds like you may end up worrying about all her past partners, and that will just weird out the relationship further. The girl clearly has issues, so be there for her as a friend, but try to find someone more your speed. Girls can be cool in various ways, so try to find one who's cool fits with yours.

 

[Forgotten Transformation]

Ok so, Im just gonna stay friends with her... for now. Until she like fucs with me again or something. In the meantime Im not gonna look for any other girls, not because Im "waiting" for her, but because really.. Im tired of trying to find one.. for now at least haha

 

[Tzmhero]

Best of luck to you bro.