A Change in Life

[B Samurai]

Alright guys, I know these threads are weird sometimes, but I honestly need help. As of right now, I'm going through a tough time, and I thought because HJU is sort of a family here, I might as well pose this thing here.

I just went through this break up guys, and well, I'm honestly still in love with the girl. It was something that she said to me that got to me. The fact that I had all of these plans on what I wanted to do with my life, yet I didn't have the money to fund it, and that's the main reason on why she broke up with me. Well, seeming how I still want to get back with her, because I love her more than anything, I have to show her that I can get a job and save up for college. And now before you guys think I'm doing this only because of her, it's not all true. I've come to the conclusion that if this doesn't work, I'll know that at least I tried, and that I've changed for the better in my life.

So, I know I can do what I need to do, but I need support from you guys, because like I said before, I consider HJU a family, and I know how much you guys helped out Forever Knight when he tried to quit smoking. And I'm pretty sure that at least one of us here has gone through something like this.

So here is what I'm trying to accomplish:

1. Get a job
2. Start a savings account for college
3. Get my license
4. Tone my body

So thanks guys for listening, or just stopping by and whatever. But, if anyone has anything they would like to contribute, it's appreciated.

B Samurai

 

[Demetrivamp]

Ok for your first goal just go around to places in your area, and just get a bunch of job applications its real easy.

Ok the second one is a little bit harder, but just whenever you have spare money put it in the account, so that you will get more with your interest.

The third goal of yours is the simple goal of the four. If you can just study, and take the test then you will get your license.

And with your body I'm also in the process of toning my body also, and if you can just make time in your day maybe after work or before work when you do get a job to just work out for a few hours, and you set a strick diet then you will be set that's what I've been doing since September, and I went from 225 to 202.

Just the main thing that you need to follow is that you can't get lazy you have to work hard on all these goals, and don't give up on them because you need work to accomplish anything other then nothing.

 

[Faded.Memories]

I think you're doing an admirable thing, not even for the girl but just for yourself. I hope that, when you've accomplished everything on your list, your girl will see the man you've become and be willing to give you a second chance.

Good luck. :thumbs:

 

[Ragna "D" BloodEdge]

And even on some off chance she doesn't see it, there'll always be someone else out there for you who will.

Good luck, B. Let us know how you're doing.

 

[Bolt]

I love to see someone take earnest action to improve themself, props for that, B.

I know looking for employment and saving up can be tough, but getting your driver's license ain't hard, and it's totally worth it for the extra freedom you'll have.

And if you ever want to discuss general physical fitness, I'd totally be willing to help. Drop me a line on here or AIM whenever you need tips. :thumbs:

 

[B Samurai]

Thanks guys, that means alot knowing that I have a bunch of support. I really need it, and thanks. I will keep you guys updated as I go along, and Bolt, be expecting me on AIM sometime, I already have some questions for you, lol.

I already have a set plan on Monday, provided everything goes according to plan: First I've gotta pick up my glasses, then me and my friend Ant are going down to Cape Charles to look for jobs, and then he's going to start teaching me how to drive.

So that's really the first step, but once again guys, thanks for all of that. :thumbs:

 

[KAGEKI]

Good luck with that B. Samurai, maybe if you can, you can find to a job agency that will pick out a job for you.

 

[martin angelo]

It's a good thing B Samurai cited Forever Knight's smoking problem. Both samurai and knight mean the same thing. Anyway, living with a broken heart will take time (sometimes long) to heal. It requires a lot of acceptance and determination to move on. Pray hard. It works. As for FK, it's really good that he changed for the better. His problem is also not that easy to solve. Good job, FK! May you forever live a knight.:thumbs:

 

[OverdrivePrime]

This is a great undertaking you're challenging yourself with, B Samurai. Like the other guys said, getting your license is a pretty simple matter. Study a bit, familiarize yourself with traffic laws and tricky things that they always check (always look over your shoulder before you change lanes), and make sure you've got a car with no obvious defects (cracked windows and such) to take your test in.

The hardest part is resculpting your attitude toward life, and it sounds like you're already taking the very important first steps toward that. First you get a firm understanding about what you want out of life. Try to sit down and make reasonable 1 year, 2 year, 5 year and 10 year plans for yourself. Obviously the 5 year and 10 year plans are going to be pretty blurry - just like with business planning and weather forecasting, the farther out you look, the more the picture will have to be readjusted, but these are just goals to shoot for. Once you understand what you want (and why you want it), you can chart a course for how to get it.

Obviously, getting a job is the first step. I don't know how old you are, or if you've finished high school yet or what, but you need income to get yourself going. As the saying goes, you've gotta spend money to make money, and college is one of the best financial investments in yourself you can make.

So, in looking for a job, think about your 5 and 10 year track. Don't just grab the first fast-food job that offers itself - strategize. Instead, try to find a job that lets you gain some knowledge that'll be helpful down the road. If you're thinking about getting a business degree, apply to work in something connected to business. Depending on your current skill set, you might apply to work at retail store (or even better, an office supply store), or maybe see if you can land an entry-level clerical position somewhere if you're a fast and accurate typist. If you're thinking of getting a degree in something else, adjust your job hunting more toward that field. (If you're thinking of being a vetrinarian, apply to work as a receptionist or back-room stock person at a vet clinic or pet supply store, etc.)

Again, I don't know your background, but it can be tough to get into college if you've taken a few years off after high school. It might be worth your time to look into a some accredited (important!) community colleges to restart your academic career in before you take the super-expensive plunge into a four year university. Community college is a wonderfully cost-effective option as long as you make certain that your credits there will transfer over to a four year university.

Anyway, good luck with those first steps. Keep us posted and we'll keep cheering for you!

 

[B Samurai]

Update

Well guys, I've got sort of an update for you. It's still not Monday, so those plans haven't come to fruition, but my friend let me drive his care for a while, and I did pretty good, plus I was working out at his house, and my muscles are sore, lol.

Anyway, so I talked to her, and it seemed that we weren't getting back together, and we were kind of arguing on the phone, and she ended the conversation. So I asked her to let me tell her one last thing through text, and she did, so this is what I said:

"I'll always love you no matter what. I'm sorry for everything bad between us, and I want you to know that. Thanks for all the good times and being my prom date. I want to be hopeful that someday this will all blow over and we can be happy together again, but I won't hold my breath. We're both going to mature into great people, and I hope everything works out, and you find out what you want in life. The last thing I ever want is for you to be mad at me, so please don't. You've helped me realize alot of stuff, so thanks, I needed that more than anything. And ultimately in the end, this is the best for us, unless something more comes of it. You mean alot to me, and if you ever need anything, I'm here. In my traditional way, later days Sahra, I'll always love you.

Rising Samurai"

And that's it guys. I'm hurt, but a the same time, I know it's for the best. This can only strengthen me though, because I have the passion to become a better person than I could ever be, and everyone that's posted so far, thank you, it means alot. So, until Monday, when I have more to post, I bid you all adieu.

B Samurai