Do you believe in divorce?

[DigDoug]

I'm not entirely sure if I believe in divorce or not, but I do know that people need to stop getting married just because they think that lust=love, that their "biological clock" is ticking, their being pressured by society, or whatever crummy reason. Fact is, if two people don't REALLY love each other, then they shouldn't get married.

 

[Khaiden]

Totally agree. Though it's never easy for both partys, and it'll definitely effect there kids, sometimes you need to be apart in order for them to grow a little more

Why do you jump to the conclusion that all divorced couples have kids?

 

[Barashin]

Why do you jump to the conclusion that all divorced couples have kids?

Why do you jump to conclusion that I'm saying it as such? Don't put words in my mouth :redface2: I'm just saying if they had kids

 

[FangireQueen]

WOW what an offensive thread.

For starters not everyone who gets divorced are just idiots. I, myself, am divorced and getting ready to remarry. Am I am idiot because my ex-husband was sleeping around with no intent in changing and I refused to put up with that? Did i just not try enough to force him to love me and not want other women? To suggest such things is downright ridiculous. I gave my all in my marriage. My ex-husband decided after marrying that he didn't want only one woman and he refused to change. Love could not fix that and I refused to let myself stay trapped in that. To suggest that i'm an idiot or that I should have stuck around for that makes you a narrow-minded bastard. And yes I'm directing that at the people who believe that.

My mother divorced her first husband because about 6 months after getting married he turned into a different person and began to beat the **** out of her. Should she have stuck around and "let love triumph over all"? Was she an idiot for marrying a man she loved but divorced due to obsessive physical violence? He put my mother in the hospital. I think her divorce is MOST justified.

My parents are also divorced. They married for all the right reasons. Then when I was around 3 they just grew apart. They decided to end it before they became bitter and hated each other. They remained good friend, both remarried later on. My parents are actually BETTER parents being divorced. They both have fulfilled life, I have amazing half brothers that I'm closer with than anyone. My mother and my father still talk and work out family gatherings. I never ONCE felt any sting or awkwardness from their divorce. My parents just weren't together, nothing else was wrong with it.

This thread is one of the most ridiculous things I've ever seen on here and I actually motion for this thread to be closed. This is inflammatory and more insulting than most the **** that goes on here.

And to add my full personal opinion, people who claim to not believe in divorce are delusional children who need to learn the realities of life.

 

[Lynxara]

I don't think poorly of people who get divorces. In every case where I've known the couple, it's been sad but absolutely the best thing in the long run.

It's hopefully something I never have to go through myself.

 

[Daikamonohashi]

I was totally going to say something but then FangireQueen schooled all of you. Go, FangireQueen!

I'll say it anyway:

Being married and knowing plenty of married couples that have overcame everything from stillbirths to professions, I take offense to that.

Well feel free to be offended but I think your point is a little ridiculous. Love can have a damn hard time conquering the innate personality differences that can lead to a couple being driven apart. It happens. That's life. Accept it.

Maybe you'll say, "well, they just aren't truly in love," but how the hell are they supposed to know? Love is the Queen Bitch of emotions and it's hard as hell to know whether or not your love with someone will manage to last or not. If you're 85 and still in love with your spouse then great-freaking-job, here's your gold medal. You're awesome. But then what about the people who aren't "idiotic" enough to get a divorce but really hate each other and only tolerate each other because divorce would only ruin their public image somehow?

 

[Barashin]

WOW what an offensive thread.

For starters not everyone who gets divorced are just idiots. I, myself, am divorced and getting ready to remarry. Am I am idiot because my ex-husband was sleeping around with no intent in changing and I refused to put up with that? Did i just not try enough to force him to love me and not want other women? To suggest such things is downright ridiculous. I gave my all in my marriage. My ex-husband decided after marrying that he didn't want only one woman and he refused to change. Love could not fix that and I refused to let myself stay trapped in that. To suggest that i'm an idiot or that I should have stuck around for that makes you a narrow-minded bastard. And yes I'm directing that at the people who believe that.

My mother divorced her first husband because about 6 months after getting married he turned into a different person and began to beat the **** out of her. Should she have stuck around and "let love triumph over all"? Was she an idiot for marrying a man she loved but divorced due to obsessive physical violence? He put my mother in the hospital. I think her divorce is MOST justified.

My parents are also divorced. They married for all the right reasons. Then when I was around 3 they just grew apart. They decided to end it before they became bitter and hated each other. They remained good friend, both remarried later on. My parents are actually BETTER parents being divorced. They both have fulfilled life, I have amazing half brothers that I'm closer with than anyone. My mother and my father still talk and work out family gatherings. I never ONCE felt any sting or awkwardness from their divorce. My parents just weren't together, nothing else was wrong with it.

This thread is one of the most ridiculous things I've ever seen on here and I actually motion for this thread to be closed. This is inflammatory and more insulting than most the **** that goes on here.

And to add my full personal opinion, people who claim to not believe in divorce are delusional children who need to learn the realities of life.

:thumbs: You tell em girl! Totally agree! Unfortunate circumstances do happen, and sometimes they need to be apart in order for them to be better people. My mother is divorced herself so i should know

 

[Forever Knight]

do you believe in divorce?.

I believe in not getting married. Common Law is good enough.

 

[Kura]

I agree with having divorces for all the right reasons. I read the Fangire's post and I believe in all of it.
What I do not agree on/ believe in is marrying someone quickly because that often leads to marrying someone for the wrong reasons. My grandparents were 39 when they got married (and back then, that was a big deal) and they sorta set an example that.. if you love someone, you don't HAVE to get married right away. You can be content just being with each other. This will let you get to know the other person better. All aspects of them.

I do think certain things can come up even if a couple waits a long time for marriage to merit a valid divorce, though.
I frown upon infidelity a lot. I think that if you vow to be with someone, and that if you really are to make that commitment to them, you should remain faithful to them.
I also frown upon divorces that happen because of medical situations, too. I don't think that if your husband or wife lost an arm really would be such a huge factor for the other partner to stop loving them. Obviously there are lots of reasons that can merit a valid divorce following that, but I've known/ heard of people divorcing because of greed or shallowness that I really don't respect.

All in all.. I think the concept of divorce is a great one, but people can divorce for the right and wrong reasons.
I think that the main problem is people not realizing true love, or responsibilities in wedlock.

 

[Quark]

This... this is just no good.