Well, outside this forum, I only have like 3 or 4 people I can genuinely talk about Toku stuff at all, so, I'unno, it always strikes me as weird when someone says "we as a fandom" as if we were like, this organization. :B Everyone has their own approach to things, no matter the field of interest in question. Can't really force a civil approach on things when people don't wanna be civil to begin with.
It's my experience that that kinda behavior really does happen in just about any fandom -- some more than others, mayhaps, but then, I haven't experienced any fandom ever. :V I'm not huge on interacting with people I share interests with, anyway since even then, I usually have rather controversial opinions.
… I think we're kinda veering off-topic. :V