"Welcome to Babylon" - Japan: Part III

[kyo28]

In way this thread is making me feel uneasy, but at the same time I find it interesting to see the comparison between the two of us: our background, the path we’ve walked and the philosophy behind it is very different.

I can understand it must have been hard for you when people denigrated you. And I have a lot of respect for someone like you who kept chasing his dreams no matter the opposition.
Regarding your mom, you were a bit brief in describing the problem but I can understand that a lack of moral support from her made things harder. She didn’t give you a chance to study or learn a trade or something? If that's the case I can understand you not getting along with your mom (although I wouldn’t have gone as far as hitting her)

I can also understand you feel uneasy if you’re just hanging on by a thread at your job. But perhaps you should look at it this way: even by hanging on a thread, they’re keeping you. I got high praises for the projects I worked on both from the Japanese and European offices … but once completed, it was “Thanks for the great work; you can go back to where you came from now”.

Basically, I get a strong underdog vibe from your threads, which is probably how you must feel. But all you need is having someone introduce you to a language school, show your Canadian passport and you’re in. A Belgian person almost needs to get a PhD in order to land a job in Japan, since we don’t speak any language that's ‘in’ in Japan. From what I understand, and sorry if I misinterpret, you just kinda ‘rolled into’ your current situation, with a joke left and right. I get the impression you’re not taking all of it very seriously, which is fine. But reading about it made me feel uneasy, since I’ve put a lot of time and effort into career planning. It’s not your fault things turned out disastrously for me and I’m honestly happy for you that you were able to achieve everything you’ve achieved so far. It’s just painful to get this constant "I’m in Japan for Kamen Rider" or "I’m just checking out the cute chicks here" undertone, whereas other people take it very seriously and put in a lot of effort, but end up with their back against the wall.

Things may not go your way sometimes but I feel you just gotta release. Life is too short to be spent moping. After all, doesn't time make all things good?:thumbs:

I’m afraid time won’t make things right for me. I need to make some important decisions fast, which could have a huge impact on my future life. I wish I had more time to consider but unfortunately I don't.
Oh yeah, and I’ve lost the girl I wanted to marry for the sole reason I got canned.
So sorry for not laughing at your humorous Kamen Rider / hot chicks adventures in Japan.

Kyusaku, I'll have one of those prozac pills now, thank you.

 

[Aoi Kurenai]

Oh yeah, and I’ve lost the girl I wanted to marry for the sole reason I got canned.

She left you because you weren't in Japan anymore?

The way I see it, Bueno's been through so much crap in his life that he can't help but look back and laugh at it. At the time it probably wasn't funny and even years down the road, not everyone can laugh at certain situations. The way he sees it I think is basically "That's life, people fail when they try their best sometimes, but that doesn't mean you should quit.", you can't really do that much. Sadly it's a reality for far too many people these days. It's not a reason for someone to just give up, but some people just have to go through more things in their life than others.

He probably did go through a lot more than he posted at the start of the thread. The feeling I've gotten from his threads is that they're more of a summery about certain events in his life. Eventually people will reach a point in their life when they realize that nothing is gained from stressing yourself out about everything. It often just makes things worse, when I read the "Work Trip and Kamen Rider" I didn't think it was funny really, I thought it was more of a look into the way Bueno thinks about different aspects of his life. No matter how small or big something may seem, you always have to have a positive outlook on things, and that's hard for people to do.

 

[kyo28]

She left you because you weren't in Japan anymore?

It's a bit more complicated but basically, yes.
In a nutshell:
I had to go back to Belgium in order to keep my job.
She can't leave Japan because of family issues.
Neither of us seems to be able to find a way out.

 

[Bolt]

That definitely sucks, but ordering Bueno to stop posting his experiences isn't going to make it better.

 

[Keith Justice]

Hey...Keith didn't ask me to post my stories! Even though they're not nearly as dramatic as Bueno's, they pretty much just consist of me saying "I think I'll go to Japan" and "Hmm, the evil school will let me go to Japan and fulfill an academic year WHILE simultaneously getting to buy more Kamen Rider stuff. $weet." :laugh:

Well, I do have a tragic ending to mine: for various reasons I am going to have to leave earlier than I wanted, like the end of this month. :bawling: But I'll definately be back some time next year if not sooner, because you can take the Igadevil out of the Japan but you can't take the Japan out of the Igadevil. Try not to laugh at that last sentence.

Okay, enough thread derailing. Keep up the good work Bueno, I look forward to seeing how this all turns out. You've clearly been through a lot, I hope it all works out in the end.

I'd love ALL your stories and to post them up on the front page... I just haven't found the time yet... *yawns*

Too much to do...

 

[kyo28]

That definitely sucks, but ordering Bueno to stop posting his experiences isn't going to make it better.

Where did I order him to stop posting? All I said that there is a certains undertone in his stories that says 'I don't things seriously', which is painful for me since I took things very seriously but crashed and burned.
But nowhere did I write he had to stop, did I?

 

[Bolt]

Not in exact words, but you're being very persistant about the matter for seemingly unknown reasons. You've never made it clear as to how Bueno's posts offend you, and they shouldn't; they're a completely seperate matter. I'm not really sure what your problem is but it's getting a little obnoxious.

 

[Kyusaku]

Wow it's looks pretty bad when someone who is obnoxious calls someone else obnoxious.

 

[Bolt]

Wow it's looks pretty bad when someone who is obnoxious calls someone else obnoxious.

Take your pills bastard!!!! :shakefist

Maybe "obnoxious" wasn't the right word, but it just appears from what I've seen that Kyo has *some* kind of problem, but then he has some other problem with Bueno's problems, and the problem is that Kyo's problem isn't getting attention or something.

 

[MaraJade]

In the opposite manner, writing about stuff often helps to organize your thoughts, make things either real / not real to you, and helps you come to grips with things. I used to think blogs were pretty stupid (afterall, who wants to read about your boring life, right), but then it became a thing for me to just vent and be myself on it, regardless of whoever read it. Of course, there's the whole thing with privacy (or pseudo privacy b/c it's on the frigging internet) but it did/does make you think someone gives a flying F about what you're going through. And you might be surprised, sometimes people you'd never guess could be going through the same shiet as you are. There is some merit in the saying "strength and safety in numbers."

Kyo, I'm sorry that life really took a turn for the crap for you; it happens to all of us even if we put out our best and do everything right. I'm not going to say "time heals all wounds" because I know that's not really helpful at this point. All I can say is take heart and be encouraged in the people who have suffered through, overcome, and that if we can do it (they can do it), you can too. Man, that came out sounding much fruitier than I meant. You know what I mean.

And Bueno, rock on man. You're doing fine making your life , Your life.