Downers

[Kura]

:/ I dunno about you guys.. but do you ever notice friends or people being all downers around you? People being "trolls" literally. Constantly. Especially on the internet?

:/ I'm posting this because I was in the chat of another forum, talking to an old online friend that I've known for a while and even talked to on the phone a few times.
I've been excited because I heard recently that BlackRock Studio (they do pretty nice racing games for the 360 and PS3 and are a division of Disney Interactive) want to give me an interview over the phone. They're in England and I live in Canada. I applied for a character animator/ rigger position.

I told him about this.. and told him about England.. I'm worried because I really want to work in feature film.. so I thought rigging would be really great to learn.. but at the same time I'm afraid that I wont get enough experience animating at the studio. It's far from home but my parents are supportive and my dad thinks it'll be a great experience for me. I'm 20 years old. They pay but I don't know how much, and I hear England is pretty expensive to live in. The internship is for 2 and a half months.

Anyways, getting back on track, I told him how I felt, and all he would say is "That sounds like a hassle" and "that sand looks gross." (Because it's right by the beach.)

Do people do this on purpose? Is it because people really don't think it's that great? I know I should do what will make -me- happy, but I don't even know.

I was so excited to get the email saying I got the interview.. but now that it's been a few days, I'm second guessing myself. It feels like people around me save one and my parents are really for it and are really happy for me.

I wanted to know what HJU thinks. I know there are a few around here that work for gaming companies so I wanted to ask.
Is it being realistic to be thinking like this about it? -Should- my friends feel happy for me and congratulate me? Or is it really no big deal?

Is it that people really have been downers lately? People acting negative towards others a lot? Do you think there is more "trolling" because the term is now popular so people think it's cool? Or are some people just on a high horse and need to feel like they're always on top so they shoot down other's accomplishments?


What do you guys think?

(Sorry for the long rant.. this is like my first thread here.. I hope it's in the right place.)

 

[Quark]

I was so excited to get the email saying I got the interview.. but now that it's been a few days, I'm second guessing myself. It feels like people around me save one and my parents are really for it and are really happy for me.

You should be excited! That would be a great experience, I would imagine. I mean, it's kind of a long ways to go for an internship, but getting your foot in the door would be worth the effort. I'm curious though, are there no opportunities closer to you? If not, I can sympathize. I'm not having any luck finding an animation job in my area. I feel tied down to where i'm living, and can't really move to LA or wherever I could find a job.
If the interview goes well and they want you for the internship, and you want to go, you should totally go for it.

Is it being realistic to be thinking like this about it? -Should- my friends feel happy for me and congratulate me?

..Yes!

 

[Kura]

You should be excited! That would be a great experience, I would imagine. I mean, it's kind of a long ways to go for an internship, but getting your foot in the door would be worth the effort. I'm curious though, are there no opportunities closer to you? If not, I can sympathize. I'm not having any luck finding an animation job in my area. I feel tied down to where i'm living, and can't really move to LA or wherever I could find a job.
If the interview goes well and they want you for the internship, and you want to go, you should totally go for it.

..Yes!

Yeah there are a bunch of studios here, but 3rd year is when we're supposed to do internship so the ones in the area are really competitive.
I haven't heard back from any of the other ones yet, though. I applied to 4stroke, Alphachannel, Starz, Side Effects Software, and Pipeline studios. Pipeline is in the school so I don't know if I'd actually really want to take it because I want to experience a real studio environment. The ones I would take for sure are Starz (paid) and Side Effects(paid) because they do feature film work and that's what I really want to end up doing in my life. Alphachannel and 4stroke are a combination of Motion Graphics, Animation, and Particle Simulators.. and Alphachannel (unpaid but offers transportation compensation) looked like they did a lot more 3D work than flat 2D graphics so I probably wouldn't want to take 4stroke as much (It's unpaid work). I don't know if I'd take Alphachannel instead. The one I'm going for pays but I don't know how much, and I hear living expenses in England are pretty high.

Either way I don't know if this one in England is set in stone, though. It's just the interview so far. I think if I get it it'd be really nice to experience.. that's why I applied there.

Still.. this thread was more about people than the situation, really..
I feel like that almost everywhere I go.. that if you get somewhere, there are only very few people who say "Wow that's great" and the rest have something negative to say. Stuff like "That sounds like a waste of money." Or something..
I dunno. It feels like people who seem like they're supposed to care for you really don't care for you in the long run. But I don't know if it's just me.

 

[Dark Kabuto]

I use to know this one girl in an old college I go to...pretty much every single time I'd see her, she'd be upset or complaining about something...usually about boys. Seriously, every god damned day was like living in a soap opera with her.

 

[FangireQueen]

Downers seems to be a modern manifestation of jealousy. People are jealous of the opportunity you have so instead of just trying harder for their OWN opportunity; they're just going to make yours seem like crap. Your friends SHOULD be happy for you plain and simple.

Unfortunately, nowadays too many people are too lazy to make their own luck, so they just have to **** on everyone else's.

And as for the soap opera friend, GOOD GOD I have one of those too. Every time I see her I want to strangle her. Also her drama is ALWAYS more important than anyone else's drama. I was at a luncheon that my friends and I have each month. I was trying to tell my friends about me getting a divorce (since no one knew at the time). I told them about how my ex-husband had slept with at minimum 8 women. She chimes in that the guy who was using her for a booty call stopped calling. I glared at her and she goes "What??? This is WAY more traumatizing than your little thing"

Yeh, almost killed that bitch.


If people can't be happy for you and support you (in good times AND bad). Then you just need to cut them out of your life.

 

[unmei]

Despite it seeming to be entirely negative, some people just don't know how to express their concerns, or rather might not want to since it could be considered a sign of weakness, and are really just trying to look out for you in their own (though poorly projected) way by nit picking little things to try and deter you. I don't know for sure if that's the case in this particular situation as I don't have enough experience with your unknown friend to properly read them... or you.. or anyone here for that matter.

I actually left Toronto initially to come to California for a localization internship with Bandai in what seems like a lifetime ago. And can say it was a great (though not exactly the best paying) experience that I wouldn't trade, to be able to work in an industry that interests me, and helped considerably to realize that's not what I wanted to spend my life doing and shifted my focus to a combination of psychology and computer sciences (unrelated FTW) and shifted Japanese to a minor study for me.

Over seas is a bigger step than the other side of the continent though, so make sure it's something you really want before you commit to it, because once you're there, you're there until the internship is up.

 

[Kivat]

I think you should definitely feel happy and excited Kura. Think Realistic AND Optimistic. Not one or the other.

Your friends and family should definitely be happy for you also, that's one of the reasons why they are there, to confort you and make sure you succeed.

Don't let anyone discourage you, this will be a good experience for you and might help you in the future BIG time.

So good luck. :thumbs:

 

[konrei-sama]

Downers seems to be a modern manifestation of jealousy. People are jealous of the opportunity you have so instead of just trying harder for their OWN opportunity; they're just going to make yours seem like crap. Your friends SHOULD be happy for you plain and simple.

Unfortunately, nowadays too many people are too lazy to make their own luck, so they just have to **** on everyone else's.

If people can't be happy for you and support you (in good times AND bad). Then you just need to cut them out of your life.

I raise a 'YES!' on this post. I'd like to rub this on someone I know outside for being like that. :buttrock:

 

[Kura]

Downers seems to be a modern manifestation of jealousy. People are jealous of the opportunity you have so instead of just trying harder for their OWN opportunity; they're just going to make yours seem like crap. Your friends SHOULD be happy for you plain and simple.

Unfortunately, nowadays too many people are too lazy to make their own luck, so they just have to **** on everyone else's.

And as for the soap opera friend, GOOD GOD I have one of those too. Every time I see her I want to strangle her. Also her drama is ALWAYS more important than anyone else's drama. I was at a luncheon that my friends and I have each month. I was trying to tell my friends about me getting a divorce (since no one knew at the time). I told them about how my ex-husband had slept with at minimum 8 women. She chimes in that the guy who was using her for a booty call stopped calling. I glared at her and she goes "What??? This is WAY more traumatizing than your little thing"

Yeh, almost killed that bitch.


If people can't be happy for you and support you (in good times AND bad). Then you just need to cut them out of your life.

That is pretty messed up and I feel like I experience that a lot too. It's like as if you were to go someone and say "Hey I'm having a Kiva-wedding" and instead of people saying "Wow congrats you're getting married" they go "Ew I hate themed weddings"
It's like wtf I just don't understand :/ and sometimes it happens so much that I start to doubt myself.. and the feeling isn't nice at all :///..

 

[DigDoug]

I don't have any friends like that. I have a history of hitting my friends and telling them to quit it whenever they do that constantly, just to knock some sense into them. They always end up coming to their senses, with a much better outlook on their lives.

I'm not a (very) aggressive person, but people like that really need to get the hint that life isn't nearly as bad as they make it out to be.