You weren't paying attention to the video. This problem (so they say) starts when the husband hears "Oh honey not tonight", once too often. After a couple months of that, when the wife is starting to feel lonely, she asks the husband if he wants to have sex, except by now he's already taken care of it himself because that's what she's been telling him to do.
No matter how you look at it...that's her fault. You built up a habit in your relationship.
Granted, there are (I'm certain) plenty of cases where the problem begins and ends with the husband. How he got a GIRLFRIEND to begin with though...I don't know.
Also...how can guys fake it? Pfft. If he's wearing a condom, how would you even know?
YouTube - Scrubs - Turk fakes it
...Why so mean? And no, orgasm is *not* ejaculation...but do you have any idea how difficult it is to separate the two? Any at all?