Quick question about dating

[KamenRiderZero]

Ok guys, I don't know how well this thread is gonna turn out, but I just wanted a little feedback.

My question basically is, if there's a girl you're attracted to but you don't know her well, would you either ask her out and use the first date or two to get to know her, or would you try to become friends with her first?

Ok, maybe a short explanation of the situation might help here :sweat:

So there is this extremely cute girl in my Freshman Composition (English) class. I think she's been flirting with me (and its a general consensus among most of my friends). Now I'm not gonna say "I love her" or anything like that here. I'll stick with the simple "I'm attracted to her". Like I said, she's really cute and seems to be a really cool person. But, we barely get to talk in class (we sit on opposite sides of the room), and once class is over we can manage to say hi to each other (she actually remembers my name, which surprises me :laugh: ), but not much else because I have to run right out the door to catch a bus so I'm not late to work. So obviously we don't know each other too well. But I'm not sure what to do. So I figured I'd go ask my buddies here at HJU cause I can at least count on most of you (especially you, JC :thumbs: ) to be nice and provide sage advice :anime:

 

[Ragna "D" BloodEdge]

Take the time to get to know her a little first. I've found it takes some of the awkwardness out of things if you know what to expect from each other.

 

[Keith Justice]

Tough question, man. If you're in high school then I don't know much more than yourself. All I have to go on is my experience and in that..... well, I just had to be happy without having a date.

High School's a different world than Beyond High School. MUCH more difficult.

How I roll now and how most adults do it, there's no need to mess around with getting to know then working up to a date. At a certain level of maturity, you both know what you want and it's okay to ask for it straight out.

In that, it's best to just go for it, otherwise (from my high school experience) you run the risk of getting stuck in the friends zone if you start out friends.

Tell me.... I need to know all the details of your world. How would you feel if you just asked her straight out? What do your friends do? Do you have a car that you'd be able to go pick her up for a date?

Otherwise, go the easy route. Work out for the next 5 years, read books like mad, and then have the time of your life dating after the age of 21, when there's less stress.

 

[CaptainB_Money]

Lol. I'd try to get to know them really well before i ask them out.

Im in that situation with PLUNTY of girls right now. :buttrock:

 

[KamenRiderZero]

Tough question, man. If you're in high school then I don't know much more than yourself. All I have to go on is my experience and in that..... well, I just had to be happy without having a date.

High School's a different world than Beyond High School. MUCH more difficult.

How I roll now and how most adults do it, there's no need to mess around with getting to know then working up to a date. At a certain level of maturity, you both know what you want and it's okay to ask for it straight out.

In that, it's best to just go for it, otherwise (from my high school experience) you run the risk of getting stuck in the friends zone if you start out friends.

Tell me.... I need to know all the details of your world. How would you feel if you just asked her straight out? What do your friends do? Do you have a car that you'd be able to go pick her up for a date?

Otherwise, go the easy route. Work out for the next 5 years, read books like mad, and then have the time of your life dating after the age of 21, when there's less stress.

No, I'm in my first semester of college :thumbs:

And at this very moment I am without a car or license (don't ask :redface2: [I didn't lose my license, haven't gotten it yet due to circumstances]), but I can take my road test at any time, and my dad said he'd give me his old car once I learn standard, and until then I can use his Explorer :buttrock:

 

[Bolt]

This is kind of like asking somebody how to swim and how cold the water is without just jumping in and testing it yourself. I don't mean to sound like a downer, but experience is the best master, not some shmoes on an internet forum.

 

[Keith Justice]

Bolt spits the truth. There's a **** ton to learn from experience.

But if you're in college, find out what she likes, her interests and stab right for the gold and ask her out.

Simple as that.

 

[KamenRiderZero]

You know, this is why I come here, cause I know my HJU brothers can give me sage advice :buttrock:

 

[Keith Justice]

That's just how we rolls, brutha. :thumbs:

Let us know what you decide and how it goes.

 

[Judge Faiz]

Let me suggest a totally DIFFERENT approach.
Stalk her. And I don't mean like just follow her to class. Bug her phones, hang out in the bushes outside her window. Follow her everywhere!
Chicks DIG that! It shows them that you're into them and serious. And should she call the cops...well then it was never ment to be.

Honestly though, I'd just ask her if she wants to hang out some time, maybe catch a flick or grab a bite to eat. It doesn't have to be a "date" persay and don't make her feel pressure to go out w/ you. Just throw out the invite, and if she passes, move on. Or even if you and some friends are all going somewhere (like a flick, or bowling, or something) that way there's also no pressure that it's just you two.

Anyway, I say just ask her to go hang out and see what happenes.