Just found out yesterday that I'm kinda "autistic"...NOT

Okay so here's the story. What happened was for some time now I've been suspecting that I'm "not like the others". I don't know whether anyone remembers but I posted a topic here asking what you guys think of people with mental disabilities. I posted it 'cause I wanted to know if I'm "like that" Also for some time I was suspecting that my mother was hiding something from me. And guess what? My suspicions were correct.

I actually overheard my mother and her friend talking about how "abnormal" I was the other day. So I went through some old medical documents of mine and found this psychiatric documentation stating that I have this condition called Asperger's Syndrome. So I did my research online over this Asperger's thing. Turns out, Asperger's is this mild form of Autism.

I can't believe she hid this from me all this time. All my life I was being bullied in school, being called names like "freak", "retarded", "crazy", etc. I even felt "awkward". What's even worse is my family was hiding this from me and my own mother was making fun of me behind my back. Dammit I'm 21 and she still hid this from me! Atleast I now know why I have my problems but it really hurts to know that your own family can't even accept you.

Anyway, any of you ever been in my situation? I'm going through a really tough time right now. I need some love here.

What are symptoms of Autism?.

Forever Knight said:

What are symptoms of Autism?.

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Social awkwardness, Pervasive development disorder, communication impairment, repetitive behavior, etc. I don't know much. This is all kinda new to me. To me initially, I thought it was a mental disorder.

I might have that aswell, and my brother too.

hmmm.

Forever Knight said:

I might have that aswell, and my brother too.

hmmm.

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Huh? Your brother's autistic?

Asperger Syndrome is when you're not aware if someone's annoyed of you, and you don't hesitate to show attitude towards others. Most of the time you don't even know if what you've said was rude, ill mannered, or if it made someone sad.

Symptoms in young ages that are relevant is if the kid is attached to something like say, Pirate Costumes. The kid wears it daily to school, no matter how older he gets. Even to the point of high school, he or she gets to the point where it starts to become relevant that the kid has a problem. The way for parents to help a kid like this is if they "join" the kid in their own world and try to bring them out of it.

So if the kid likes Pirates, the parent has to kinda dress up as a Pirate and pretend to go on adventures with him or her as a kid to try and let the kid know that the parent understands him and all.

^^ That's part of my psychology studies. Hopes it helps you. Don't worry pal, 50% of the people in the world has some form of mental disorder, they just don't know it. I have ADHD, and I live just fine.

It's okay. Your mum probably thought that by keeping mum about it, you would live with a normal life. Because if you had know it, subconsciously you will be affected and chose not to hang out with anyone anymore.

Not that i'm saying to pretend you never know,continue living the past 21 years you had been doing. If you're living properly until you know the news...continue living normally.:thumbs:

I have aspergers but it's best not to use it as a crutch in life. Yes, it can lead to social difficulties, but if you're a bit more restrained and know how to cooperate with others to accomplish what you need to accomplish, you can get by rather easily.

Ore-sama said:

Okay so here's the story. What happened was for some time now I've been suspecting that I'm "not like the others". I don't know whether anyone remembers but I posted a topic here asking what you guys think of people with mental disabilities. I posted it 'cause I wanted to know if I'm "like that" Also for some time I was suspecting that my mother was hiding something from me. And guess what? My suspicions were correct.

I actually overheard my mother and her friend talking about how "abnormal" I was the other day. So I went through some old medical documents of mine and found this psychiatric documentation stating that I have this condition called Asperger's Syndrome. So I did my research online over this Asperger's thing. Turns out, Asperger's is this mild form of Autism.

I can't believe she hid this from me all this time. All my life I was being bullied in school, being called names like "freak", "retarded", "crazy", etc. I even felt "awkward". What's even worse is my family was hiding this from me and my own mother was making fun of me behind my back. Dammit I'm 21 and she still hid this from me! Atleast I now know why I have my problems but it really hurts to know that your own family can't even accept you.

Anyway, any of you ever been in my situation? I'm going through a really tough time right now. I need some love here.

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ok yes, asperger's is indeed a mild form of autism. however people with aspergers are capable of living good and full lives. NORMAL LIVES. I studied child development in college and let me tell you this. People with aspergers in their adult years usually have developed strategies and such in order to to cope with the condition. I'm guessing that you have friends and people to talk to.

who cares if people called you names in the past, the same applies for a lot of people. what's important is now. Don't let this new news affect how you live your life

Japaneseseriesfan said:

Asperger Syndrome is when you're not aware if someone's annoyed of you, and you don't hesitate to show attitude towards others. Most of the time you don't even know if what you've said was rude, ill mannered, or if it made someone sad.

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Sometimes you don't need to have Asperger's to have those traits. All you'd need to do is be a complete heartless and inconsiderate douche.

Alcin91 said:

It's okay. Your mum probably thought that by keeping mum about it, you would live with a normal life. Because if you had know it, subconsciously you will be affected and chose not to hang out with anyone anymore.

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I'm split on that statement. I'm thinking that knowing would be better than not knowing. I've had plenty of awkward moments in my life, and nobody seemed to understand me. Like Ore-sama, I've been told many times that I'm stupid, and have been called "retard", and it happened so often that I started to get concerned that it might be true. I actually brought up that concern to my mother once, and thought that perhaps she was been trying to pass me off as normal as to hide that there might be something wrong with me.

I have a friend who has Asperger's. Four years back, I had flown out to visit her for the second time, and that time around I got to meet her parents. Some time after I returned, she and I were chatting and she told me that she wasn't supposed to tell me this, but her mother suspected I might have Asperger's also. Something about how polite I was, how my friend and I got along so well, and how I'd try to make myself understood (whatever that means). I figured her mother might actually know what she's talking about though, since she actually raised a kid with Asperger's. Unlike some other people, who have little or no experience and are just so quick to label anyone as "retarded" just because they don't understand that person, and that they're just plain ignorant. She says that her mother can also tell if someone's gay, but I digress. So that's why I went and got tested, since I thought it would be better than not knowing. The psychologist I saw tested me and said that my condition is more of "pervasive development disorder", and not so much Asperger's although she states I have some of the traits that might constitute Asperger's. She said that four out of five of my motor skills are on point, though my problem is that I tend not to remember things I hear later on in complete detail.

The psychologist also wanted to meet my mother, and tell her about the results. My mother actually brought up the time where I asked her if I might be retarded, and cried, because she didn't think that I should have to wonder that about myself.